I'm beyond excited to share the January 2020 Real Talk Retreat details with you.
If you'd love to retreat with me you'll find everything you need to know right here on this page.
Who is this retreat for?
This is a womxn's retreat that welcomes all womxn, including trans womxn, genderqueer womxn, and non-binary people who feel called to this event.
I'd say that this is for you if:
- You find yourself listening to Real Talk Radio and wishing you could join the conversations
- You are interested in an immersive experience with very full days, blending deep conversation, solo time, meaningful connection, luxurious rest, and pure pleasure
- You'd love to dedicate time to go through a holistic, guided reflection and goal-setting process to help you get a clearer understanding of what you want next, why you want it, and how to make it happen in your real life
- You've been craving more openness, honesty, laughter, & friendship
- You love the idea of being part of a supportive group, and of contributing to a collective, non-judgmental experience for all
- You've been dying to do some real talk in real time about all sorts of different topics
- You'd love to treat yourself to the experience of an all-inclusive retreat where lodging, delicious meals, and lots of fun activities are custom-planned to give you a wonderful (and transformative!) experience
- You value growth, joy, community, connection, honesty, and going beyond the surface level of typical small talk
- You want to be surrounded by a group of kind people who will let you know that no matter what, you are not alone
I signed up for this retreat because I love the conversations that Nicole has on the podcast, and I’ve been hoping to build more of that into my own life. I also love goal setting and planning out my year, but it's something that I've struggled with lately as I've moved away from more quantitative goals and towards lifestyle shifts/things that are more difficult to measure or don't have a clear end point. I really loved the multi-part goal-setting workshop that Nicole lead us through all weekend though, and found it so lovely to take space outside of my regular life to ask deep questions and really work through the responses. This retreat is one of the best things I have done in years and I would 100% recommend that anyone who is interested in Nicole's work sign up for one. I had the privilege of meeting some incredible people and we had some fantastic, life changing conversations over the course of the weekend. This retreat has made me so excited for the year ahead! — Lauren
Where & when are we retreating?
We'll gather together in Scottsdale, Arizona from January 3 - 6, 2020, the perfect opportunity to kick off the year with fun, friendship, and deep reflection and goal-setting. Our retreat begins at 3pm local time on the Friday and ends at 10am on the Monday.
What else does this retreat experience include?
Our Arizona retreat includes a three-month post-retreat mastermind group called We Can Do Hard Things. In this group, we'll work together to expand upon the goal-setting work we do in person at the retreat, allowing us to build focus and resilience (and have fun!) while we work side-by-side on our goals through the first quarter of the year. This mastermind includes weekly check-ins, monthly deep-dive reflections, and a two-day end-of-Q1 virtual workshop (March 28 & 29).
Together in sunny Arizona we'll start the year off by having hours of honest conversations—true real talk about our real lives. We'll write and journal together with no agenda other than getting to the heart of what's true without judgement. We'll have group time and solo time. Time to bond, time in nature, time to work on individual creative projects, and time to really dig into the process of reflection and goal-setting.
This last part, the reflection and goal-setting curriculum, is something I've been teaching in various capacities for the past six years. The new workshop I've custom-built for these retreats is the culmination of all that I have learned over those years about how to change your life, which is really about how to 1) let yourself want what you want and 2) close the gap between what you say you want and what you actually do.
This sounds easier than it is, but I've found that few of us ever really take the time to be honest with ourselves about what actually brings us joy, and about the fact that what brings us joy will likely shift over time in the many different seasons and chapters of our lives.
And so these questions that we'll be asking ourselves together on retreat, questions like: What makes me feel good? What do I like to do right now? How do I want to spend my time and energy in the coming months? What support do I need, and how can I get it? How might I be standing in my own way?—these questions can be revolutionary, especially when we are also willing to admit that there's often a big difference between the things we truly want and the things we think we should want.
Can we let go of those "shoulds"? How might our lives change in the next year if we are willing to stop judging ourselves for who we really are?
Let's find out.
On retreat together in January, let's begin to find out.
What's the cost, and what are the payment plan options?
This retreat is all-inclusive, which means that all you need to do is get yourself to our retreat home and then every single thing from there is covered (delicious meals and snacks, shared-room lodging, all activities, goal-setting workshops, surprises & treats, etc).
The cost for the Arizona retreat + 3-month mastermind program is $1900, and you can choose from either a 3-month or 6-month payment plan.
(If you really want to come but need a longer payment plan, such as a 9-month plan, just ask. I'm happy to be flexible wherever possible!)
Can you tell me more about the three-month Mastermind Program?
In January of 2019 I hosted the very first Real Talk Retreat.
The eight people who joined me for that cozy winter escape were so brave—coming to a brand new event with total strangers is scary! The work we did together on that retreat was so impactful, particularly in the realm of reflection & goal-setting, and we had hours of conversations about how we wanted to feel and what we most wanted to do in the year ahead, and about what we could realistically do in our real lives to make that happen.
The energy on the final morning of that retreat was one of optimism, intimacy, and confidence—we had started out as strangers and had quickly formed a little family—but there was also a note of sadness. Did it really have to end?
Well, not necessarily...
All of the retreat guests flew home, and I dove into the creation of a year-long Mastermind Program that would allow for continued support, encouragement, and deep conversations. Because sure, we could pursue our goals and build our best-fit lives on our own, but wouldn't it be easier (and way more fun) to do that as a group?
I've always been someone who enjoys keeping journals and setting goals on my own, but decided I'd like to try these activities in a group setting last summer. And it's been SO worth it! It is incredibly valuable to be surrounded by a community of smart, honest, authentic, compassionate women as we pursue our goals and navigate life. Nicole is a wonderful leader with a keen intuition for knowing what mix of affirmation and tough love you need. This group has absolutely helped me feel empowered and less alone. None of the major world religions really resonate with me, which is fine, but I feel like I've been missing out on that weekly opportunity for reflection and community. I really think this group has filled that void. I plan on staying with this group for the long term! — Hannah
And so the Mastermind was born, and in July I began a second Mastermind Program for the folks at last summer's Massachusetts retreat. These two different groups have enjoyed working together so much that they've both requested second retreats to bookend our work, and I can't wait to hug each and every one of them in person again this winter.
So, what can you expect from the Arizona Retreat + 3-month "We Can Do Hard Things" Mastermind Program?
- For real-time weekly accountability, there will be a shared Google Spreadsheet where everyone can track their smaller goals/action steps. I will send an email prompt each Friday, and you will commit to updating your section of the spreadsheet by end-of-day Sunday, which keeps us all present and focused in real time and allows me to give detailed feedback, encouragement, and other offerings every Monday morning.
- For deeper monthly reflection, I will email you on the 28th of each month and share three questions for you to respond to with honesty, which will help you probe deeper into your goal pursuit. You'll respond by replying-all to that email no later than the 30th of the month, so that we can all read each other's reflections in a timely manner and provide support.
- Mid-month, I will send out a quick, fun mini challenge for everyone to complete—something small but powerful that helps us build resilience and remember that we can do hard things!
- At the end of Q1 (March 28 & 29, 2020), we'll meet as a group for two virtual workshops via Google Hangouts. The first session will be to reflect on the previous quarter, and the second will be to plan out the upcoming quarter, making sure that everyone has their desired plan in place to wrap up the program.
- And then, as an added bonus, each month I will have a few days of open "office hours," when you can schedule a 1-on-1 call with me for anything you might need: encouragement, deep questioning, tough love, etc.
I went into the retreat anticipating clearer goals around my business and life. I came out with that and so much more. I grew as a person; I was more honest (particularly to myself) about what I actually want, instead of what I think I should want. It was life-changing, and I do not say that lightly. I could go on and on; I feel so lucky to be connected to this incredible group of women, and I basically made 7 new best friends. — Jessica
Personal goals have always loomed large over me and never seemed achievable or sustainable. Going into Nicole's Real Talk Retreat, I was excited and nervous to buckle down and find a few goals to move towards. Like in her wonderful podcast, Nicole has a way of asking questions that dig right into the heart of things that matter most to you. As a result, she made the process of finding those goals interesting and easy, and the Mastermind Group has made these goals that we created sustainable and fulfilling. It is so lovely to be working through life with other incredible women! Even though we only spent a long weekend together, I feel deeply connected to these women and love the way that we're all keeping each other accountable with Nicole's guidance. This group has made a GIANT difference in my life. I feel seen and supported and loved. My hope is that this continues long after our planned end date. — Mary
I absolutely love working with Nicole and the awesome women in my Mastermind Group—their support and accountability has helped me move forward on my goals. Nicole has a way of supporting & guiding me by asking me questions of reflection that help me see my goal and steps I am taking in a way that has changed me. I feel supported, guided and energized by working with Nicole! — Liz
How do I sign up?!
This retreat is limited to eight guests, and as of December 19 there is just one spot left.
When you know for sure you'd like to come, go ahead and email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) and we'll easily sort out the details. If you have additional questions you can of course send those over via email as well (ask anything that's on your mind!) or if you'd prefer to chat on the phone we can do that too.
Some final thoughts...
This is kind of embarrassing to admit, but sometimes I have a really tough time allowing myself to invest in... myself. The moment I even think about prioritizing my own joy or doing something meaningful to take care of myself and propel my goals forward (like attending a retreat!) my inner shit-talker starts going off, saying things like, "You should be spending this money in a 'better' way! Why do you think you deserve to take time off work? This is such a selfish and indulgent thing to do!!"
And then I start to feel the other (very human) doubts as well, things like: "Will I make friends? What if I'm awkward and weird, or what if I'm too much? Will people even like me??"
And yet, every time I've managed to ignore that fear voice and take the risk, say yes, and show up with an open mind and heart, it's been worth it. Every single time.
Only you can know if this retreat feels like a "hell yes!" for you. Only you can tell if, when reading about it and thinking about it, you have that gut feeling that you really, really want to come and spend four days with me in January.
And if you do? If this is how you'd love to start your year? I hope you'll give yourself that gift. You deserve it, and I promise that I will do absolutely everything I can to make sure it feels well worth it in the end <3
More honest words about this retreat
Sometimes I have trouble justifying spending any significant amount of money on myself, especially for experiences, and I feel so proud of letting myself come to this retreat without feeling guilty about it. I was nervous beforehand, with the usual fears of, “What if everyone hates me or I'm not interesting enough or I don't bring anything to the table?” but we all wound up having an incredible connection. I definitely did not expect to like and admire everyone there as much as I did; I felt like we had a real bond as a group, and that was magical. On the other side of this retreat I have a renewed sense of power over the way I live my life. I have more insight into what things I want to do and how I want to do them, and I feel like my confidence and drive to grow into myself are higher than when I arrived. I also feel as though I have a rekindled sense of self, like I was reintroduced to aspects of being that I forgot were okay to show, and that makes me feel more comfortable in my skin and even a little less guarded. Now that I’m home, I’ve already taken steps in my day-to-day life to say and do things I might not ordinarily do for fear of judgement or rejection, and it feels great. I'm trying to ride this wave of honesty and integrity, and I'm looking forward to seeing where it takes me. I also want to say that I’m very introverted, and I felt so welcomed at this retreat. My need for occasional solitude was honored, respected, and even encouraged, and it was really the first time in a social setting that I didn't feel like I had to hide my introversion or compensate for not being super outgoing—everything fell right into place and I felt so comfortable just being myself. — Olivia
My biggest fear before this retreat was that I wouldn’t connect with people, but I did! And not just on a superficial level. Often I share (and seem vulnerable), but I’m still guarded. At this retreat I let myself be a mess, and I also really listened to others as they shared and became invested in their stories. As a result, I feel like I’m walking away with a group of amazing people that are on my side, and who value me as a complex person. I also feel more confident, capable and sexy, which I didn’t expect. Overall, the retreat was a significant investment and I wondered whether it would really be worth it, but looking back I can say the answer is a resounding YES! Nicole gave us a long weekend of deep work with the right balance of honest conversations, goal-setting, pleasure breaks and all the food and beverages you could possibly want. I was surprised and delighted by the connections that we built as a group and the impact that this work is having on my life back at home, especially with our Mastermind Group. There's just something so empowering about knowing you have a group of people who will hold space for you, and support you towards your goals. The Mastermind Group has been a great way to foster the connections that were created during the retreat. With every check-in I hear questions and comments from the other participants that help me dig deeper towards what I want out of all aspects of my life. I carry that love and support every day and it keeps me motivated and confident.— Flo
This retreat has been a turning point for me, and not just in the cheesy New Year’s resolution way. I’ve now felt what it means to be brave and true to myself, and I feel so much more joyful than I have in a long time. If you can swing it, this retreat is worth it. It’s a weekend to meet the most incredible people, be the best version of yourself, and think about the things you really want in. I think it really does take something like this—getting out of your life for a bit, getting out of the patterns you’ve put on yourself, and taking the time to think about what you really want. One of my favorite parts was sharing and hearing other people share in such an honest way throughout the weekend. I was surprised by how much what everyone else shared impacted me and my own way of thinking about my goals; I didn’t expect literally every other person to teach me something so beautiful and profound. Also, I loved how much we laughed! — Sarah
More than anything, on the other side of this retreat I really do just feel less alone. I feel like it was a really beautiful time to get to know some new folks and the biggest thing that feels different is I feel more curious about some of the topics that came up over the weekend. This retreat gave me time to step away from my scheduled life and into a space that allowed for a good deal of active introspection, and I so appreciated the chance to dig into my values and explore new ways to prioritize some of my goals. This was basically an extended grown-up slumber party! — Ellie
After hanging out 24/7 with such emotionally intelligent, in-touch, inclusive people I feel more in touch with myself and even more open to hearing from others who are not like me than I did before this retreat. In coming home, I also feel that this weekend was a springboard to better relationships/conversations with my existing friends. Talking about my retreat experience has opened up deeper, more intriguing conversations with people who I've been close with for years! At the heart of it, this retreat was such a fertile environment for taking inventory of how I want my life to unfold. It's so common (at least from my point of view) for people to go through life reacting and then regretting their 20's, 30's or how they handled situations or took people/things for granted. This retreat helped me go deeper and take inventory of the things I want in life (many of them I already have!) and make sure I'm not taking them for granted or pissing them away. This is something I do regularly but being around others doing the same work was fantastic and energizing, and it felt so good riding that collective wave. — Jina
When you purchase a ticket to one of my workshops, retreats, or other live events, please know that your ticket is non-refundable.
This means that even if your plans change, you can't cancel and get a refund.
But you can:
- Sell your ticket to someone else
- Give your ticket to someone else (lucky them!)
- Attend a different event instead (depending on space availability, of course)
This lovingly tough cancellation policy reflects my commitment to you. I will show up for our event 100%, and I encourage you to do the same.
As my girl Alex (whose policies inspired me to create my own) says, "Just come. Don’t flake out. Be brave & show up. It’s good for the soul."