Have you been craving more real talk in your real life?
The deep conversations you've been dying to have. A live podcast-style interview with one of the most beloved past guests. An in-depth reflection & goal-setting workshop. Quality time to rest, relax, or work on a creative project of your own. Plus new friends, big laughs, delicious meals, a peaceful and beautiful setting, and a few special surprises...
Our time together will be the perfect balance of community and solitude, deep work and hilarious fun, and you'll leave this retreat feeling strong, recharged, and inspired—not to mention infinitely less alone.
Where & when?
The 2019 retreat season has concluded, and it was such a joy to retreat together in Oregon, Colorado, Indiana, Massachusetts, and the UK this year.
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Who is this retreat for?
This is a womxn's retreat that welcomes all womxn, including trans womxn, genderqueer womxn, and non-binary people who feel called to this event.
This retreat is for you if:
- You find yourself listening to Real Talk Radio and wishing you could join the conversations
- You are interested in an immersive experience with very full days, blending deep conversation, solo creative time, meaningful connection, luxurious rest, and pure pleasure
- You'd love to dedicate time to go through a holistic, guided reflection and goal-setting process to help you get a clearer understanding of what you want next, why you want it, and how to make it happen in your real life
- You've been craving more openness, honesty, laughter, & friendship
- You love the idea of being part of a supportive group, and of contributing to a collective, non-judgmental experience for all
- You've been dying to do some real talk in real time about all sorts of different topics
- You'd love to treat yourself to the experience of an all-inclusive retreat where lodging, delicious meals, and lots of fun activities are custom-planned to give you a wonderful (and transformative!) experience
- You value growth, joy, community, connection, honesty, and going beyond the surface level of typical small talk
- You want to be surrounded by a group of kind people who will let you know that no matter what, you are not alone
I signed up for this retreat because I love the conversations that Nicole has on the podcast, and I’ve been hoping to build more of that into my own life. I also love goal setting and planning out my year, but it's something that I've struggled with lately as I've moved away from more quantitative goals and towards lifestyle shifts/things that are more difficult to measure or don't have a clear end point. I really loved the multi-part goal-setting workshop that Nicole lead us through all weekend though, and found it so lovely to take space outside of my regular life to ask deep questions and really work through the responses. This retreat is one of the best things I have done in years and I would 100% recommend that anyone who is interested in Nicole's work sign up for one. I had the privilege of meeting some incredible people and we had some fantastic, life changing conversations over the course of weekend. This retreat has made me so excited for the year ahead! — Lauren
We'll be having hours of honest conversations, true real talk about our real lives. We'll write and journal together with no agenda other than getting to the heart of what's true without judgement. We'll have group time and solo time. Time to bond, time in nature, time to work on individual creative projects, and time to really dig into the process of reflection and goal-setting.
This last part, the reflection and goal-setting, is something I've been teaching in various capacities for the past five years. The new workshop I've custom-built for these retreats is the culmination of all that I have learned over those five years about how to change your life, which is really about how to 1) let yourself want what you want and 2) close the gap between what you say you want and what you actually do.
This sounds easier than it is, but I've found that few of us ever really take the time to be honest with ourselves about what actually brings us joy, and about the fact that what brings us joy will likely shift over time, in the many different seasons and chapters of our lives.
And so these questions that we'll be asking ourselves together on retreat, questions like: What makes me feel good? What do I like to do right now? How do I want to spend my time and energy in the coming months? How might I be standing in my own way?—these questions can be revolutionary, especially when we are also willing to admit that there's often a big difference between the things we truly want and the things we think we should want.
Can we let go of those "shoulds"? How might our lives change if we are willing to stop judging ourselves for who we really are?
Let's find out.
On retreat together, let's begin to find out.
More honest words about this retreat
Sometimes I have trouble justifying spending any significant amount of money on myself, especially for experiences, and I feel so proud of letting myself come to this retreat without feeling guilty about it. I was nervous beforehand, with the usual fears of, “What if everyone hates me or I'm not interesting enough or I don't bring anything to the table?” but we all wound up having an incredible connection. I definitely did not expect to like and admire everyone there as much as I did; I felt like we had a real bond as a group, and that was magical. On the other side of this retreat I have a renewed sense of power over the way I live my life. I have more insight into what things I want to do and how I want to do them, and I feel like my confidence and drive to grow into myself are higher than when I arrived. I also feel as though I have a rekindled sense of self, like I was reintroduced to aspects of being that I forgot were okay to show, and that makes me feel more comfortable in my skin and even a little less guarded. Now that I’m home, I’ve already taken steps in my day-to-day life to say and do things I might not ordinarily do for fear of judgement or rejection, and it feels great. I'm trying to ride this wave of honesty and integrity, and I'm looking forward to seeing where it takes me. I also want to say that I’m very introverted, and I felt so welcomed at this retreat. My need for occasional solitude was honored, respected, and even encouraged, and it was really the first time in a social setting that I didn't feel like I had to hide my introversion or compensate for not being super outgoing—everything fell right into place and I felt so comfortable just being myself. — Olivia
My biggest fear before this retreat was that I wouldn’t connect with people, but I did! And not just on a superficial level. Often I share (and seem vulnerable), but I’m still guarded. At this retreat I let myself be a mess, and I also really listened to others as they shared and became invested in their stories. As a result, I feel like I’m walking away with a group of amazing people that are on my side, and who value me as a complex person. I also feel more confident, capable and sexy, which I didn’t expect. Overall, the retreat was a significant investment and I wondered whether it would really be worth it, but looking back I can say the answer is a resounding YES! Nicole gave us a long weekend of deep work with the right balance of honest conversations, goal-setting, pleasure breaks and all the food and beverages you could possibly want. I was surprised and delighted by the connections that we built as a group and the impact that this work is having on my life back at home. — Flo
This retreat has been a turning point for me, and not just in the cheesy New Year’s resolution way. I’ve now felt what it means to be brave and true to myself, and I feel so much more joyful than I have in a long time. If you can swing it, this retreat is worth it. It’s a weekend to meet the most incredible people, be the best version of yourself, and think about the things you really want in. I think it really does take something like this—getting out of your life for a bit, getting out of the patterns you’ve put on yourself, and taking the time to think about what you really want. One of my favorite parts was sharing and hearing other people share in such an honest way throughout the weekend. I was surprised by how much what everyone else shared impacted me and my own way of thinking about my goals; I didn’t expect literally every other person to teach me something so beautiful and profound. Also, I loved how much we laughed! — Sarah
More than anything, on the other side of this retreat I really do just feel less alone. I feel like it was a really beautiful time to get to know some new folks and the biggest thing that feels different is I feel more curious about some of the topics that came up over the weekend. This retreat gave me time to step away from my scheduled life and into a space that allowed for a good deal of active introspection, and I so appreciated the chance to dig into my values and explore new ways to prioritize some of my goals. This was basically an extended grown-up slumber party! — Ellie
After hanging out 24/7 with such emotionally intelligent, in-touch, inclusive people I feel more in touch with myself and even more open to hearing from others who are not like me than I did before this retreat. In coming home, I also feel that this weekend was a springboard to better relationships/conversations with my existing friends. Talking about my retreat experience has opened up deeper, more intriguing conversations with people who I've been close with for years! At the heart of it, this retreat was such a fertile environment for taking inventory of how I want my life to unfold. It's so common (at least from my point of view) for people to go through life reacting and then regretting their 20's, 30's or how they handled situations or took people/things for granted. This retreat helped me go deeper and take inventory of the things I want in life (many of them I already have!) and make sure I'm not taking them for granted or pissing them away. This is something I do regularly but being around others doing the same work was fantastic and energizing, and it felt so good riding that collective wave. — Jina
When you purchase a ticket to one of my workshops, retreats, or other live events, please know that your ticket is non-refundable.
This means that even if your plans change, you can't cancel and get a refund.
But you can:
- Sell your ticket to someone else
- Give your ticket to someone else (lucky them!)
- Attend a different event instead (depending on space availability, of course)
This lovingly tough cancellation policy reflects my commitment to you. I will show up for our event 100%, and I encourage you to do the same.
As my girl Alex (whose policies inspired me to create my own) says, "Just come. Don’t flake out. Be brave & show up. It’s good for the soul."